We all have an idea of where we want to be heading. We all have people and ideas that motivate us – keeping us on the straight and narrow to achieve that ‘goal’. The biggest problem I have faced is a lack of self-awareness. I find it all too easy to follow a random to-do list and just think I’m doing the right thing in the moment. The issue with that is time passes by and you feel like you are still in the same place. Getting stuck in that rut is what causes sparks of anxiety and potentially mild depression, leaving your mind in a place that doesn’t help you move forwards and motivation can drop off.
- How do I go about achieving my goals? In quite a simplistic way – the theory is the simple part, it’s always a question of ‘can I follow these steps through?’. The way I work it all out is: I write down on a sheet of plain paper ‘I am here’ on one side and ‘I want to be here’ – join the two together with a line. Then work backward from your goal to where you are today. This will create a list of things you need to do to get where you want to be. The next part is self-explanatory. Just follow the steps you have just written for yourself. Keep that piece of paper, keep referencing it because this will keep your progress in perspective. It doesn’t have to be 10000 steps long, but it will help your mind understand the path you are walking down, and each time you tick off one of those steps you will realise you ARE on the right path and you are a step closer to where you want to be. It is then just a matter of time. You will get there, you will achieve it – whatever it may be. If you don’t you’ll die trying and then you won’t know anyway. Either way, you will achieve that goal. You will hit that target and you will get to where you want to be.
- The only person standing in your way is YOU and your own mind. Take time to invest in yourself, understand what you are capable of and the best way for you to work – that’s going to reduce the time it takes you to tick off those bits you need to do to achieve your goal. Something I have realised recently is how powerful my mind can be. We are wired to make up excuses and I am extremely guilty of that. You can talk yourself out of the smallest of tasks in seconds. So stop. Take control, take ownership of your thoughts and help yourself by setting that little negative voice inside your head to one side. The more you learn that the more you will grow and develop.
- The third thing you need to keep in mind is; knowing your worth. If you are keen and eager to achieve something you will meet people along the way who are ready to exploit your hard work, dedication, and talent for their own financial gain. You can create your own standards, determine the value of your work and determine how you should be treated by others. Of course, this ties in with keeping things in perspective as something is only worth what someone else is prepared to pay for it. Be optimistic about your plan but keep everything in perspective with a hint of realism. The more real you are with yourself the faster you will develop. If you set an unrealistic goal and you don’t achieve it you begin putting pressure on yourself that didn’t even exist in the first place.
- Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t. And I mean anyone! I have had teachers, family, partners, friends and colleagues all tell me ‘you can’t’. “Ollie that just doesn’t happen”, “yes but Ollie how are you ACTUALLY going to do that”, “Ollie that’s too much of a saturated market” etc…. The list goes on. But what I think every time I hear something like that is “yes, but I haven’t done that, I haven’t tried that, people haven’t heard what I have to say and people haven’t seen my take on that”. If someone says you can’t be a comedian – take your phone and record a set and post it online – bam! You are a comedian. If someone says you can’t be a model – take photos of yourself with others and post them. BAM – you are modeling. Do you see where I am coming from? The internet gives you a whole world of opportunity right at your fingertips – it’s up to you how you use it and what you can make of it. Remember some of the biggest artists and personalities we know of today were found online!
Keep your thoughts organised and enjoy the process of figuring it all out – it’s all part of the fun.
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